The three of us were taking a walk in the park today, well Nayeli was on her trike, and Peter and I were walking off our lunch when we approached 3 young teenage boys sitting on a bench. I had noticed they were being loud and using foul language before we got near them and as we passed them I noticed one holding up what clearly looked like a joint. It angered me and I said to them, "I hope you guys are not planning on smoking that around here!" The boy holding the joint looked at me with a confused look and his jaw dropped. It was at that moment that I realized he was not holding a joint. It was a twig that looked very much like a joint. The boy then (understandably) became upset and said it was a twig. I felt so stupid that the only thing I could think of saying was "oops" and keep on walking. One of the boys then yelled out, "you shouldn't make assumptions about people!" And then another yelled out, "fucking bitch!" Peter turned around, walked back and asked them to repeat what they just called me. The three of them got up, puffed out their chests and started saying that they weren't doing anything wrong as tough as they could. I suppose it was then when Peter got a good look at their faces, that he noticed that they were actually pretty young, like 12-14 yrs old. Without saying another word, he turned back around and walked away. They yelled a few more curse words at us. We continued walking.
The whole time Nayeli had been riding her trike way ahead of us so she was completely oblivious as to what had just happened. Peter and I walked in silence and I started to feel an immense amount of shame, embarrassment and guilt. The boy was right, I did make an assumption and I was a bitch for not acknowledging my mistake and allowing the situation to escalate and getting Peter involved and upset. I apologized to peter. And when we were getting close to where the boys were sitting at again, I told peter to keep on walking. I approached them and apologized. I told them they were right, I did make an assumption and I was wrong for that, then they apologized for the words they called me and Peter. One of them said, "I know we look a certain way, but we're not like that and we're sorry for everything too." They were 3 African-American boys and with that statement I understood that they felt they were being discriminated. I told them that we were Mexican and that we have been treated poorly because of it too and I know what an ugly feeling that is and I felt terrible for having made them feel that way. I apologized again and so did they. Then I smiled, nodded and walked away.
Now I know....look and think twice before opening my big mouth to talk shit or I may end up looking like a huge ass and offending innocent people. :/
Today was a good day. Had spontaneous morning sex, for the first time in about a year Peter accompanied us to church, had lunch at Denny's, then came home and did some gardening in our front yard. At about 7 pm we're going for a walk in the park...today will be our third day walking in the park. Things feel happy and normal today.