- So long 2013, please be good to us 2014
- December 29th, 2013
Earlier this month, the doctor that was assigned to Peter through his job pretty much told him there was nothing much else he could do for him. Since his injury in Feb. of this year, they have provided massage, physical therapy, acupuncture and a facet block shot and he pretty much still feels the same. His doc pronounced that he had to remain on permanent light duty from there on. About a week after that Peter received a call letting him know that since his medical case was closed, they were going to cut off his workers comp. He was told that his only options at that point were to go on disability or continue to work 4 hr daily shifts (light duty) until a position that he could fill became available....IF one became available. It is impossible for us to survive on what he makes only working 4 hr shifts a day. Peter has since hired a lawyer to help with this situation because he pretty much gets a lot of "I don't knows", and other non-nonsensical mumbo jumbo whenever he inquires about his situation and what he can do about it. There is a supposed desk position that would be suitable for him that might be available in Jan., but they won't tell him much else about it. We're not holding our breath. Things are hard financially right now. We only buy what we need when we need it. We'll get through this. That's pretty much all there is to say on that right now.
As a mentioned in a previous post, Peter's family celebrated Thanksgiving on Fri and he and Nayeli went while I stood home and hoped that perhaps his family could lift his spirits and cheer him up. Nothing happened, Not a single word was said. When I texted his sis a couple of days after to inquire about it, she said there was a lot of people and they were all so busy that they never got around to it. I believed it, that's pretty much the way it is when we go over. Also, the money Peter and I spent buying a turkey and the ingredients to brine it went to waste because the damn lady decided that this year, after many years of not making one, and after we had told her we were going to prepare the turkey this year, decided to prepare her own and had it cooking in the oven already when Peter arrived. He had arrived early specifically to have anough time to prep and cook his turkey. Then when the turkey was done and Peter thought he finally had his turn with the oven, the lady decides that she had to cook/caramelize in Mexican sugar, a whole pumpkin. A whole pumpkin that she didn't even serve to her guests and was later wrapped up and sent home with Peter. He was very annoyed and I was irritated hearing about it. I knew she was going to bust something like that. She then declared that us and Peters sis were to be in charge of Christmas dinner because she was going to be healing/resting from a tummy tuck. (That's a whole other story) I told Peter I was only making dessert because I knew that surgery and all she would still make her own main course. Peter's sis, on the other hand, took this serious and prepared a lovely dinner of spiral cut ham, mashed potatoes and other yummy sides only to have them pushed aside by her moms pozole. I didn't go for Christmas dinner either, but Peter told me his sis was hurt because she had worked so hard to make dinner. I felt bad for her, she had called me a few days earlier asking me for recipes and tips. She is a good cook and she really wanted to prove that to the fam. You can be Julia freakin' Child and my MIL will still try to one up you.
Okay, and now this last part. About a week and a half before Christmas, Peter called his mom and asked her for a loan. Now let me just say that we don't go to them or anyone for money. We have always tried to do things on our own and have managed pretty well until recently, but things got really hard this time and we were pretty desperate and scared of not being able to pay our mortgage. Peter's parents are always telling us how well they are doing with their home daycare and how they might even be able to retire early because they are doing so well so we figured it would be okay to ask for a loan....just enough to cover 3 months of our mortgage and we would pay them back monthly and eventually in higher increments once our financial situation got better. We weren't asking for them to give it to us...just a loan. Peter's mom cut him off before he was even done saying what he had to say and declared that they were broke and had no money. (this is the lady that was about to waste thousands on a tummy tuck). Then she went on to lecture him and say some pretty hurtful things about me that I don't want to get into right now. She also said that she knew I was up to something when I went to his sis and asked her to talk to them and that she saw all this coming. It would have been different if she had just said that she couldn't lend us the money. They are under no obligation to say yes or even give us an explanation. It is their money that they worked very hard for and we are adults who should be able to do things on our own...but to go on and say those hurtful things. To kick him when he was already down and to assume that my intentions were monetary and not sincere. I went to Peter's sister and parents for help because I was and still am worried about Peter's emotional well being. Not once did I bring up anything about money. It was all about him and how this has all taken a toll on him emotionally. All I was asking for was some words of encouragement to him from them. You know....what parents should do. Do they think I don't love him? After 14 years and everything we have been through together? Well, needless to say this affected Peter pretty bad and had added even more to what he is already going through. I feel so angry at her for hurting him and for thinking there was an ulterior motive to my talk with his sis. I should've never talked to her. This only made the situation worse.